Written by U.S Immigration News Wednesday, 29 June 2011 16:04
A few weeks ago I received the sad news that a good friend and business partner, Dawn James-Williams, had passed away. Her death was completely unexpected. She began to show symptoms only a few weeks before being diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. Dawn’s story was unusual for the immigrant experience, for after living in New York for more than two decades and not being even close to retirement she and her husband, Colin, decided to move back home to Antigua, West Indies. Among their dreams were to build a home, give back to their community of birth, and reconnect with family while enjoying yearlong warm weather. While many friends here felt that their decision to return home at yet a young age was imprudent, as a friend I was personally happy for them. They were following an uncharted route by creating their own opportunity to write a new chapter for their lives.
Upon their move to Antigua they made good on their promise and began to work on starting a business while getting involved in their community. The impact of their contributions was immediately felt. They started support groups for women, young girls and boys, got actively involved in their church, and began working on a community initiative to restore and repair the grounds of the local cemetery. Eleven months after their arrival in Antigua, Dawn was dead. It had not even been a full year. How could this even be?
When death knocks at our door unexpectedly, besides the inevitable pain and grief we begin to ask questions. We ask God and we ask ourselves - why? What signs did we miss? What could we have done differently? What could we have said and did not? But one thing is sure, death also brings along lessons for the living. Yet, often times because the pain is so intense we are not capable of paying attention long enough to learn. In the midst of the soreness of our hearts, God speaks to the living but we must be willing to listen and learn. Dawn’s untimely death has taught me the following very important lessons:
Copyright Ó 2011 by Norka Blackman-Richards
Norka Blackman-Richards is an educator, a writer and an empowerment speaker on women, education, diversity and generational issues. She is the Chief Editor of Empowerment 4 Real Women, the Founder of 4 Real Women International, Inc., and the Global Developer for The Global Community for Change. She teaches for CUNY at Queens College.